Sexual incompatibility is a MYTH! Disconnection between the sheets has little to do with mismatched desires, different libidos, or unwillingness to please a partner. In my work as an Erotic Blueprint™️ Master Coach, one of the biggest missing links I see between my clients and a life dripping with pleasure is…communication. Not using their voice!
I know that at first glance, communication might not be the sexy secret you were hoping I would unleash, but stick with me.
When you are able to name your desires and communicate them to your partner from a place of safety, you have laid the foundation for ultimate freedom and pleasure.
Creating emotional safety around your sexual expression is an essential first step toward the sex life of your dreams…
Safety does not happen without communication.
There are a lot of things that no one has taught you about sex.
For one thing, many of us receive the bare minimum “abstinence only” sex education in school. Our parents may or may not have supplemented that with their own moral or religious views. We have certainly picked up a lot of information about what sex from movies, tv, and popular culture.
We are bombarded with huge amounts of input about what sex should look like. The problem is that much of that has nothing to do with pleasure or how to communicate your desires to your partner.
Furthermore, many of us are raised in a culture where there is a general hush-hush vibe around sex. This creates a lot of confusion in our budding adolescent brains because sex is everywhere, yet we don’t really talk about it. At least not in ways that teach us how to enjoy the experience of being a human who feels safe in their body and confident enough to use their voice to communicate their desires.
Are you ready to get comfortable talking about sex? What would your sex life look and feel like if you were able to get exactly what you want exactly how you want it?
I’m here to show you how.
Step 2: Now that you know your primary Erotic Blueprint type, you can dive further into how to feed your blueprint and confidently explore what turns you on, what stands in the way, and how to communicate this to your partner.
Here is a quick rundown:
- The Energetic Blueprint type is turned on my tease and anticipation, but can easily get overwhelmed by too much sensory input.
- The Sensual Blueprint type loves to experience pleasure through all five senses but can have a hard time being fully present if their environment is distracting or they have too much on their minds.
- The Sexual Blueprint type sees sex as simple and straightforward. They know what they like, but they might be overly focused on what they know gets them to orgasm.
- The Kinky Blueprint type is into fantasy and taboo pleasures. They like to push the edges, but they might need to overcome shame around their desires in order to be fully expressed in their sexuality.
- The Shapeshifter Blueprint type loves to play in all the blueprints and they crave variety. They might run into challenges around judgment for wanting too much.
Step 3: Feed your Blueprint type and have fun discovering new ways to embrace your Blueprint superpowers both in the bedroom and in your everyday life!
You don’t need a partner to feed your Blueprint. The best place to begin is by setting up your life to feel comfortable and nourishing. When you live your life from a place of pleasure, your ability to communicate your desires feels natural.
Step 4: Now you get to share your deepest desires and turn-ons with your partner, use your voice, and watch the magic unfold.
This is the good stuff, where life gets juicy.
Use your Voice. Simple but not necessarily easy
I believe that living a life dripping with pleasure is pretty simple, but I want to acknowledge that it’s not necessarily easy.
It took me many years of deep personal work to live the life of fully expressed freedom and joy that I have now. I know what it feels like to be at the beginning of this journey, uncertain and a bit apprehensive. I also know what it feels like to take the leap and redefine what success and fulfillment personally mean to me.
That’s why I do this work. I want nothing more than for every one of us to embrace our potential for pleasure.
I had many mentors and coaches that stood by my side and guided me through the muck, and it’s my mission to hold that space for others who want to do the same.
I created Unstuck Your Sx because I saw a need for safe spaces for people to re-educate themselves about sex. Over here, it is ok to ask questions, explore the depths of your desires, and find the words to communicate them.
Unstuck Your Sx is a small and intimate community where safety, consent, and boundaries are clearly defined. As your coach, I make sure that you are fully supported and held in all of your celebrations and challenges. This is immensely fulfilling work.
Sexual incompatibility is a myth. If people who desire a genuine connection are willing to get courageous with their communication and use their voice, there is no limit to the mind-blowing pleasure than can be yours.
It takes courage and dedication to let go of all of the things that you aren’t so that you have the space to express all of the things that you are. You have the power to change the course of your life.
Your voice is the hottest tool you can use in the bedroom and its already yours.